I know we have all found ourselves in that one relationship that just seemed toxic but you cannot let yourself leave. This relationship could be with a significant other, a family member, or a long time best friend. You know that this relationship is dragging you down but you just cannot get out because you feel like things will eventually be different. What we fail to realize though, the relationship will probably never change because there is nothing you can personally do to help that person be different. Someone has to want to change for him or herself before they can change to help others around them and benefit their relationships.
It can be so hard to let go of a long time relationship but it is so important to look at the bigger picture and how the negativity is affecting your life and your future. You may not realize just how much a bad relationship can damage your future plans and dreams. A lot of your attitude toward things stems from the attitudes you surround yourself with. If you are constantly around someone who is negative and down about everything, it will cause you to feel down and have a negative outlook. It also goes for if you surround yourself with positive people and people who are motivated and dedicated to reaching their goals, you will find become more motivated and have a more positive outlook on life.
Recognizing that someone is not meant for you future is a tough pill to swallow and that is why a lot of us drag out harmful relationships. We feel bad for the other person, or we want to be that one person that helps them change. But like I said before, you cannot help someone who does not want to help themselves. You cannot wait around for them to be different. I have experienced this more than once. I watched one of my close friends continually take the wrong path and make the wrong decisions. I wanted to help them and stick by their side but ultimately; there was nothing that I could do to help them. Their mind had already been made up and they had no concern for my wellbeing or my future so I finally realized that I had to let go. I had to focus on myself and my future because I had goals and dreams that I wanted to pursue and that toxic friendship was doing nothing but holding me back.
Some people just aren’t meant to be in your future, no matter how bad you want them to be. Everyone has a choice to take control of their life and create a pathway to a bright future. Whether or not someone chooses to do so can only be determined by them. Not by you. You are responsible for yourself and your future, so don’t let a bad relationship bring you down.